What our parents want (w.r.t. our marriage)?

For their daughters, they look out for the most educated, the most earning, and the best-looking groom in their community that is available. It is rather simple for the guys – If they wish to “earn” the girl they love, they just need to work very hard for a few years, and then assuming that she is still available, approach her parents, and show off his credentials to her parents. It is not very easy, but it is a formula that usually works.

What about the girls? What do parents look for, in prospective daughter-in-laws? She should be educated, but preferably not more than him. She should earn, but less than him. She should be an “ache ghar ki ladki”. What should she do - in order to “win” the guy she loves?  

Sometimes the pain is so intense, you can’t even stand straight.

Like someone is wringing out all of the stuff inside you.

Really makes we want to have a kid ASAP. And experience what all this is actually about…


I love art. and craft. I love it so much.

I had gone to the Sunday Soul Sante this weekend, and came back all smiley-smiley, happy-happy. It was paradise for me.

I saw so many colors, came across so many interesting ideas and people. There was liveliness and celebration. I saw so much prettiness. so much glamor. I saw so many people who have not given up on their dreams and are taking up their hobbies to higher levels. Kudos!

Did you know?

Did you know that cockroaches shed their skin too ??

I had once noticed, in our bathroom, a dozen or so small white creatures around a brown cockroach (their mum). That time, I thought - “Achaa!! Cockroaches are born white, and gradually gain the brown color”.
Thin, just yesterday I saw, again, in our kitchen, on the side a coffee-mug, a cockroach and something white moving on one of its side. I look carefully, and saw that it was actually a white cockroach shedding its brown exoskeleton!!

I also found a video on youtube, incase you’re interested:


Love me do

Everyone wants the same old things in life. It has been the like this since ages. We may pretend to believe otherwise. We may say differently. But *that* is just talk- peer pressure; pressure to perform and shine.

Rat race- this race will take us to death.

Everyone wants to settle down with someone who loves and adores them. It is really true- how we fight for independence and freedom all the time, but later, our only wish is to be accepted by the one we love.

That’s all.


I hate news channels telecasting the same news over and over again, all throughout the day. It is mostly a 15 min update, and then multiple people reacting to it and calling each other names. (“Pimp”, “Yeda”, etc). I don’t like this quick-world type breaking news.

Thousands of people across the county have opinions on each other – and broadcasting only their retorts on each others’ comments really does not make sense (on a 24hr News Channel). They should not get into the infinite “kriya-pratikyira” loop.

Journalism should be well researched and nicely written. Sometimes I see newspaper headlines and breaking news written in such a way that the facts are correct, but the context seems completely-off the truth. For eg: “Rahul ready to take on PM candidature” when all he said was that we would agree to whatever role was offered to him by the INC. “AAP HERO: CONG ZERO” – Sounds like AAP won all seats and Congress none – and no mention of BJP!

 Reading a well-written, well-researched article is everyone’s pleasure!

1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

Sixteen Small Steps to Happiness.


(Source: emma-elsworthy)